has anyone told their significant other to fuck off because they interfere with...

[NutNut]

A balance needs found. You need to give your woman attention or someone else will. A relationship is pointless if you don't make time for eachother. The reality is training does not take much time, maintaining a GOOD relationship does. I would sacrifice my OT before I gave up a good woman. It doesn't sound like she is saying stop training it sounds like she is saying "where's our time together".

As for asking what your taking, if she were to take things and not tell you what they were would you not ask? I'd give my left nut for someone that cared enough to want to actually know. If they tried to tell me to stop i'd tell them they were insane but at the end of the day, if I put myself in a relationship with a loyal woman she comes 2nd only to my son. As much as I love lifting and won't totally give it up I'd find time for her because it's needed. If it means waking up an hour earlier to lift before work or dropping a day of OT to take her out and nurture that ember into a flame, do it. No woman will accept having no time with their partner nor should they be expected to.

 

[Getraw]

Got some great advice in here couldnt agree with glycomman or NutNut anymore. My wife also doesnt really workout, sometimes she will go to the gym just to run/walk on the treadmill. I usually lift at 2am, so I know she is only doing it to spend time with me. I return the favor as much as possible. Both have to give to make a relationship work, sounds like she does care or she wouldnt have even brought it up. Talk to her brother, you will be glad you did in the end. Our life styles as bodybuilders and just lifters is hard; its hard on us, and even harder on others who dont have the same fire.

Much respect,
GR

 

[bybon]

Nut, Glyco, and GetRaw done beat me to it. Gotta have a balance.

Usually I hit the gym when she's at work or when she's preparing supper; that way she's keeping her mind busy and we can come home and enjoy each other.

 

[SHINE]

A balance needs found. You need to give your woman attention or someone else will. A relationship is pointless if you don't make time for eachother. The reality is training does not take much time, maintaining a GOOD relationship does. I would sacrifice my OT before I gave up a good woman. It doesn't sound like she is saying stop training it sounds like she is saying "where's our time together".

As for asking what your taking, if she were to take things and not tell you what they were would you not ask? I'd give my left nut for someone that cared enough to want to actually know. If they tried to tell me to stop i'd tell them they were insane but at the end of the day, if I put myself in a relationship with a loyal woman she comes 2nd only to my son. As much as I love lifting and won't totally give it up I'd find time for her because it's needed. If it means waking up an hour earlier to lift before work or dropping a day of OT to take her out and nurture that ember into a flame, do it. No woman will accept having no time with their partner nor should they be expected to.

Some words of wisdom My friend, I've been lucky in all of this. But I agree you can't worship the Iron if your going to maintain a marriage, relationship either.

I will say if you truely love that person than be patient if there not understanding at the moment, Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.

 

[AllTheWay]

i am so proud of most of you guys in here! there are some great words of advice and support from you guys!

i cant speak for all women but most of us just want to know that you care and often times we view that as the time you want to spend with us. i think that if the roles were reversed you would feel the same way. if she was working and gone all the time, wouldnt you be asking for a little time? afterall, isnt that why we are in relationships to begin with, to share our life with someone?! sharing generally means giving up something that is yours to the other person. in this case, a little time shouldnt be too much to ask. training will always be there, a good women wont.

 

[MightyMouse719]

I pretty much told my husband to FUCK OFF when I played hockey, I was gone all the time. I'm lucky he didn't throw my stuff out on the front lawn. I've done my best to keep some perspective about my training, I do find that compromise and communication go a long way. He has learned that when I decide I'm going to do something (powerlifting/strongwoman) he might as well just let me do it. My training has led to my dream career (training others, working at a gym), and I am a much happier, stable person now than I used to be. So, we have had a few arguments about my training and competitions, but it worked out in the end.

 

[ajdos]

All about setting priorities and priorities change over time. Not only that but people change as well. My girl is a gym rat like myself, so I'm lucky in that sense. I've dated plenty of girls that had problems with me going to the gym. They turned it into me picking the gym over them. They either learn to cope or we go our separate ways. It's mostly hypocritical of them. I think it's agreeable that you must be attracted to someone in order to date them. Why do you think I'm attractive? Oh yeah, all that time I spend in the gym instead of spending it with you.

They aren't happy with "I'm going to the gym because I enjoy it." They turn it into us men making a choice. Like we are making a deliberate decision: "Fuck her, I'm going to the gym."

Exactly...you know it was like that for me, I constantly made compromises to be able to do BOTH for the sake of our relationship, I bent over backwards to try and make our relationship work.
I could to 10 things for her take her out and spend time with her, but that ONE fucking time I opted out to do something I wanted to do, which was usually bodybuilding related she would throw a rant.
Yet there I was being a good faithful boyfriend and husband and this idiot was out running around.
I cant tell you how many times I wanted to do things with her and she opted out for spending time at baseball games under the premise of collecting baseball cards.

I put up with a ton, and made a ton of sacrifices, say like the first three years of our relationship having a crazy ex husband come around and make threats and start fights and bullshit with her that I ended up having to deal with.
Like when her mother died and I did every thing I could for the next 2 years to help her recover and get back into her life emotionally.
It sure as fuck wasnt the baseball player she was banging that was being there or spending time with her dealing with the yuck side of the relationship.
Yet I was a bad guy for wanting to spend some time doing something other than what she wanted at a particular moment?
Fuck that bullshit.
Women talk some good fucking game but a lot of you hardly live up to your own standards that you so harshly project on to your male counterparts, the few of you that get it are the best.

Most women are just completely insecure and the minute their man has something, anything to do thats not related to them its some god awful thing.
Oh he must not love me anymore, oh he must be cheating, oh he must not be attracted to anymore....no its that we finally realize that we can give give give and there is nothing back in return.
Get sick of the sanctamony, men do there fucked up shit, but so do women for fucks sake and I get tired of the holier than thou men suck or all men are pigs attitude.

Fact is that being in a relationship takes hard fucking work from BOTH people, and when its nothing but nagging and bitching from one of those people (which 99% of men DONT DO) it gets fucking old and we shut down.

Thats what most of us feel.

 

[bybon]

Thats what most of us feel.

See what happens when they let women out of the kitchen?

 

[NutNut]

AJ are you saying you are the 1% here because I see alot of bitching my friend.

 

[Ogre717]

I can only hope that i can find a way to get my wife and son envolved in the gym with me. We have always had an amazing relationship and spent all our free time together. My son always comes first and wife second, my needs and wants will always follow theirs.

 

[ajdos]

AJ are you saying you are the 1% here because I see alot of bitching my friend.

Im venting, what Im talking about is for example:

My ex wife used to love to do this to me. I would bust ass at work all week, get all sorts of honey do shit done at home. Then would come a Sunday, my day to do whatever the fuck I want day.
I would think I had everything done and set.
I would sit my ass on the couch and turn on the TV and try and attempt to enjoy some football.
It never failed, that assrag would come in and start in on me about some project or something she had whooped up that day and complain that because I was enjoying some downtime and a football game and not helping her with her last minute whatever that she decided to do that day, That I was a lazy ass.
Then the rest of the day and week I would have to hear all this blah blah blah bitching and moaning 'if only I had helped it would be done' kind of thing.
A perfect example was her son (whom she spoiled miserably) decided that he wanted a new basketball goal in the driveway.
I was allready sitting there watching the game when she left to go get this thing (but I had no clue they were doing this).
By halftime she has got the thing out of the box and she and he have attempted to put this thing together without reading the fuckin instructions.

Then she comes in and asks me to help. I go out there and the thing is all over the place and they have snapped peices together that will not come back apart and they have done so improperly basically rendering the thing inoperable to be put up.
So...we didnt have any of the tools we would need to fix it, so Jr starts to pout.
I go back inside, and watch the game after explaining that she would need a specific type of drill and drill bit to make a new hole for this fastener ( an all day project ).
So all I heard the rest of that day and nite and week, was how I couldnt be relied upon for shit!

It was as if she was going to make me pay for my resolve.
When in reality if she wanted my help she should have said so before they started putting the thing together...then after she fucks the thing up now Im supposed to have a snap answer and solution to fix it in less than 10 minutes??

She got herself into some last minute thing to endulge her kid, when I try to help its beyond anything I could do at the moment yet I have to pay and pay that week with this song and dance about how unreliable I was??

And mind you this idiot was going behind my back from the begining of the relationship with a married man, and Im the unreliable one? BWahahahahaahahaa!

Im sorry yes I am the 1%. I have earned the right to complain about that idiot.

Most men genetically have no equivalent to this end and is why we end up opting for death over remaining alive and hearing this non stop bitching.

 

[oldschool1967]

Have you tried PoB's method of pleasing the guys???

PIITB[

im not good at abbreviations pob, but, knowing you i can only assume it stands for put it in the butt??? lmao!!!