you can tell a woman she is beautiful 1000 times and she will never believe you... tell her she is fat once... and she will never forget!... I still say drop the hammer bro... "Baby... that ass makes those pants look fat!"
Says the HardBody who's never been called fat..ever woof... Wait til the 1st time you get called Mrs or Ma'am at the store!ok, I gotta say something......................................
Look, there should be no issue bringing up shit that bothers each other (of course delivery is key) and if the other person cannot/will not make the changes "YOU" deem necessary, you are going to do one/all of three things:
1. Cheat
2. Walk away
3. Live with it
Figure it out, you know your wife...we do not...this seems to be a serious issue for you and I'll bet any amount of money you will not let it go..sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
My wife and I just assault each other's genitals until one of us succumbs.
Says the HardBody who's never been called fat..ever woof... Wait til the 1st time you get called Mrs or Ma'am at the store!
It always seems like people need some sort epiphany to "get it". In my own experience, I can tell you there are no short cuts. If you want to produce a dramatic change in your body composition, you have to honestly give your body a solid 3 weeks of change in lifestyle (activity level, diet - quality & quantity of foods, sufficient rest & minimized stress levels) so it actually has time to respond to the change. In this case it is sort of an either / or.
Start with:
- would you rather feel lean or eat that <whatever>?
- how do you feel after you eat? Tired? Full?
- What would you do if could fit into a smaller <whatever clothes>?
- what are you willing to do about it?
These don't need explicit answers but the idea is to get her to start thinking about "what if" and "how serious are you" and how long are you going to bitch about your weight before you actually want to do something about it?
Next step - review her current lifestyle:
- quality of sleep / number of hours of sleep
- hours of activity or sitting all day (hey keep in mind, I'm a corporate computer jockey for the last 28 years - I am well aware of the incredibly large percentage of my life I've spent forming my ass to the shape of my chair...)
- stress levels (some people just have brutal work schedules or are highly strung or just spend a lot of time worrying about stuff that they don't need to worry about, or are going thru some sort of life drama) - the point is to not make excuses but rather just be aware of how much of your time is spent jacking up cortisol levels and how much is really necessary to get worked up about. If it is insanely high, that's another thing to start looking at. High blood pressure just shortens your life.
- diet - what does a typical day's meal plan look like? Write down what she eats and put it into a food counts program (e.g. fitday.com - free, online, easy to use) and be honest about portions - to get an objective summary of how much (total cals) and of what (macronutrient breakdown - carbs, fats, protein) she's eating.
Once this stuff has been honestly itemized and considered, it is usually pretty obvious where the areas are that can be optimized. And typically just a few minor tweaks can make huge differences without greatly altering a regular day in her life or adding a lot of anxiety about "being limited" or having to do things she doesn't like. The point is to keep it all part of the lifestyle and not some new and annoying adventure.
Simple changes are:
- go for a 20 min walk 3x/week - or just something that has some consistency and involves more than parking on the couch
- Get rid of random cheats - structure your eating schedule so that junk food or drinks or whatever are kept to one meal / week - e.g. going out Friday or Sat night. The purpose is to get rid of the random snacking where people don't pay attention to how much they are eating and are also giving in to that immediate desire, usually for sugar, salt or fat. Giving the body a break from that for even a few days starts to clear out the sugar and really makes you feel a million times better.
- Throw out the processed food - it honestly is not that hard to eat clean. Cook your own food, embrace grilling, embrace spices, keep it simple.
- Don't hesitate to throw in a protein shake (check the cals / carbs in it - Muscle Milk is not a good option for chicks trying to lose weight) - many women are also very short on protein intake so that would supplement for her.
Do the above for 3 weeks and I bet she drops 10 lb in water weight and a couple lb of flab immediately. But be honest about it.
But also, don't jump on the scale every 2 hours and expect to see results. ANother great way many women **** themselves by saying "it's not working, **** it, imma eat a donut or a box or two..." Don't even get near a scale. Go by how you feel, how clothes start to fit - or better, don't even look for results. Just do it and focus on enjoying the changes instead of worrying about having to "give up" things. Suddenly, she will start to feel better, see some results and maybe even belief in the effort a little. It ain't rocket science, but there ain't no short cuts either. Do it, or don't bother, and shut up about your weight because if you don't make changes you can't expect changes.
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