Love and marriage are actually two separate things. Lemme explain.
Love is what someone feels for another. It is driven by emotion, much of it is good, some of it can be "distracting", so to speak.
Marriage, OTOH, is a contract by two people who love each other. One COULD simply define marriage as an ongoing negotiation between two people in order to coexist.
That said, anyone that tells you love alone is enough to make a marriage work hasn't been married long, or is on their third divorce.
I am a very modest person. My wife is too. We both like to look presentable without giving any false impressions. Short skirts in a professional setting for a woman, IMO, is inappropriate. It's also distracting at times, even to other women. (Yes, that's right, women talk behind your back about how skuzzy you look at the work place when you wear short skirts).
Insecurity? Why is wanting your wife to be modest insecure? WTF has happened to society that thinks this way? One should automatically assume that if a husband wants his wife's coworkers to be focused on how great of a worker she is, how intelligent she is, and how she got the job because she deserved it, is insecure?
Bottom line is, both people have to be on the same page. One way isn't better than the other, as long as you can agree. If one is doing something that other feels isn't appopriate, then it's important for them to discuss is and compromise, or negotiate, so to speak.
This is why my marriage works; because we believe in the same things. My wife wants to go to work and be looked at as an equal, without distractions, so she likes wearing really nice slacks with a pretty blouse or longer dresses/skirts.
This is how my wife likes to look for work for important meetings...
She does have two outfits like this, but they are usually only worn for bigger meetings with corporate.
On a final note, I think we ALL need to keep in mind what kind of impression we leave on people. Shorter and shorter skirts with lower and lower necklines seems to be the thing these days, but, trust me on this, the women that keep things modest are WAY more respected over all than those that don't. The last 8 years of my life I have been thrown in to a world I never thought I would see and the knowledge and connections I have made is amazing. Seeing the top of the business and professional world is very interesting.