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Twiliightmoon
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- Apr 18, 2015
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I'm trying to be honest here. Yeah, it sucks, but one comment you can make will last a lifetime. My ex told me when I was about 20: "You look good, but you could still stand to lose a few more pounds." I was 5 feet tall at 98 pounds and my doctor wanted me to gain weight because I was anemic. But that comment he made has stuck with me my whole life. I remember it word for word. Women are like elephants, we never forget. I remember going out that night and getting hit on by an old boyfriend and I always wondered if I would have been better off.
I know from experience that it does not work very often if a husband works out with their wives. It happens, but it is rare. The couples I see at the gym don't hover around each other. They do their own thing and meet in the middle. I never, ever liked that my ex would critique my workouts, even when he never worked out himself. I've heard from other trainers that they cannot train their wives. They would like to, but I don't think the wives can handle the comments. And my trainer never got upset when I called him an ass, he knew he was doing his job then.
What I did at my gym is watch the trainers. I really looked at what I wanted. I didn't want an "easy" trainer. Believe it or not, my son offered to pay for 1 month of training if I found a good trainer. Sometimes a trainer can be the key of kicking yourself into goals and working out. Someone not related to you. If possible, give your wife a "gift" of a few training sessions, but let her decide who she wants to train with.
Just an idea. But realize, my ex left me because I was getting into shape. He figured if I stayed heavy, no one would want me. I got hit on more when I was heavy than how I look now.
I know from experience that it does not work very often if a husband works out with their wives. It happens, but it is rare. The couples I see at the gym don't hover around each other. They do their own thing and meet in the middle. I never, ever liked that my ex would critique my workouts, even when he never worked out himself. I've heard from other trainers that they cannot train their wives. They would like to, but I don't think the wives can handle the comments. And my trainer never got upset when I called him an ass, he knew he was doing his job then.
What I did at my gym is watch the trainers. I really looked at what I wanted. I didn't want an "easy" trainer. Believe it or not, my son offered to pay for 1 month of training if I found a good trainer. Sometimes a trainer can be the key of kicking yourself into goals and working out. Someone not related to you. If possible, give your wife a "gift" of a few training sessions, but let her decide who she wants to train with.
Just an idea. But realize, my ex left me because I was getting into shape. He figured if I stayed heavy, no one would want me. I got hit on more when I was heavy than how I look now.
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