Therapy the mental kind

[Tuffoldman]

Not sure where else to put this so I just do it in here and you can move it if needed.


How many of you out here see a therapist or counselor or psychiatrist etc etc?

I once saw therapist several several years ago and she diagnosed me and figuratively put me in a box before we even finish the first session. To say the least it was not a good experience.

I've been kicking around the idea of having someone to talk to that is very open and of course unbiased. I go see my therapist for the first session this week. Sometimes just need to get things off my chest as well as maybe work through some anxiety that's work related that I know has affected my overall well-being.

I have an amazing life, I have an amazing life, she wants nothing but the very best for me and no matter what I want she is always on board and 100% okay with any decisions I make.

My issue is not only have an ADHD in HD my mind never stops every conversation I have pretty much with my wife or any client as I'm talking I have 10 different scenarios 10 different possibilities of things I could be saying and then I try and work out which avenue would be the best way to word something and it just becomes overwhelming and heavy and exhausting.

I have the greatest job in the world most guys would kill to do what I do but to be honest after 17 years it does get kind of old and monotonous and I'm starting to really feel disconnected from my body and sometimes from my mind itself.

Just curious if anybody else's gone through any type of therapy just to get stuff off your chest and clear your mind and what was your thoughts overall?

 

[Darksidesix]

Yeah man. Therapy can be good but it all depends on getting the right person to talk to. Few years back o went through a horrible bout of depression. Couldn’t put my finger on why but o was in a dark place and almost ended it. Thankfully I have a supportive wife and we worked through it. Tried getting help through the VA but that’s a fucking joke so went the private route. Ended up having a therapist that was super old. Like late 70’s to 80’s. Nice guy but just didn’t feel like he could do anything for me. It’s hard enough talking about your shit with someone but then it’s like, dude you’re twice my age and just couldn’t relate. I ended up just bailing. Long story short that’s actually when I decided to jump on TRT which I think is one of the biggest things that helped me climb out of that hole. That and just talking with fellow brothers k served with.


Years ago (2008) when I went through my first divorce we were each seeing our own therapist and that dude was cold as shit. Was a former power lifter when he was younger. I told him I had always thought o had ADHD growing up but was never diagnosed. Like, I can read an entire book chapter and unless it’s something I’m super interested in my mind will be thinking about 3 other things and then I’ll have to go back and read it again just to figure out what I read. That dude was like…..”yeah you’re defiantly ADHD” and out my on Concerta. That really helped. For the first time in my life I sat down and read an entire book cover to cover on a few hours and knew everything o had just read.

I would defiantly look into a good therapist but the key is didn’t someone you mesh with. Good luck dude. Hope it all works out.


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[Tuffoldman]

@Darksidesix thank you very much. For me to sit a read a book would be near impossible. My mind goes in so many directions it's insane. I'm going into my first session with as much of an open mind as I can.

My wife is so happy I've made the appointment.

 

[SuperG]

It's important to find a therapist or someone you truly feel comfortable opening up to. If the connection isn't there, it's completely okay to move on and find someone who feels like a better fit. I learned that firsthand, years ago I was court-ordered to therapy, and the experience was rough. The therapist came across as condescending and closed-minded. I had no choice but to stick it out until the mandatory sessions ended, but I did make sure to express my concerns to the judge