fasttwitch
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My wife is obsessive compulsive. She is actually starting to hurt the business now, though.
She keeps having episodes, I call them episodes. Tonight was a great example. I tell her so and so bought 200 of these little parts we sell. She volunteers to package and ship them. An hour later I go into the packaging room and she is in tears. She says she printed 200 labels.. And she says she counted out 200 part's baggies. Then she counted out 200 parts. She puts the labels on the bags and then puts the parts in the bags. Then she recounts. She says she has 199. I'm listening like ok, that sucks. Weird shit happens. Move forward. Print another label, put another part in the bag. order completed. Job done. Would have taken maybe 1 minute.
But she can't let it go. She can't ever let shit slide.
An hour or so passes and I check on things again. She is online on a mental health board trying to figure out if she has dementia or is losing her mind. I tell her again, weird shit happens. Usually when something like happens the cause later reveals itself. I give her a hug. It's ok I tell her. Once you are not stuck in the muck it will dawn on you. Just move on. The IMMEDIATE action for us is to move forward and finish the job. Then relax. One time she did this and then later found out that two items were stuck together. No amount of losing her mind in that moment would solve the issue. Later on we discovered the two items stuck together.
But these situations are more and more common. And now she is saying that if she can no longer count she is useless to the business.
I'm not sure how to handle her anymore. This doesn't need to be an issue. Everyone makes mistakes. And sometimes its not even a mistake but something unpredictable. I mean, one time her kitten picked up an item and took it somewhere to play with it. Again, she lost her fucking mind. Then a day later we discover the item in the package in the kitten's play area.
Another time she had something in her hand while working and she went outside to check on something. She set it down just outside the front door and forgot about it. Later? Another freakout.
She seems to be attempting to force a solution when the real solution is to laugh and say, "what the fucking fuck??" And then move on. I am constantly making mistakes. I'm the King Of Mistakes! But I realized a long time ago to just get over the issue and finish the job and then later, at some point things will resolve. I've learned to laugh at my many, many mistakes and move on!
She is making non-issues into dilemmas.
She keeps having episodes, I call them episodes. Tonight was a great example. I tell her so and so bought 200 of these little parts we sell. She volunteers to package and ship them. An hour later I go into the packaging room and she is in tears. She says she printed 200 labels.. And she says she counted out 200 part's baggies. Then she counted out 200 parts. She puts the labels on the bags and then puts the parts in the bags. Then she recounts. She says she has 199. I'm listening like ok, that sucks. Weird shit happens. Move forward. Print another label, put another part in the bag. order completed. Job done. Would have taken maybe 1 minute.
But she can't let it go. She can't ever let shit slide.
An hour or so passes and I check on things again. She is online on a mental health board trying to figure out if she has dementia or is losing her mind. I tell her again, weird shit happens. Usually when something like happens the cause later reveals itself. I give her a hug. It's ok I tell her. Once you are not stuck in the muck it will dawn on you. Just move on. The IMMEDIATE action for us is to move forward and finish the job. Then relax. One time she did this and then later found out that two items were stuck together. No amount of losing her mind in that moment would solve the issue. Later on we discovered the two items stuck together.
But these situations are more and more common. And now she is saying that if she can no longer count she is useless to the business.
I'm not sure how to handle her anymore. This doesn't need to be an issue. Everyone makes mistakes. And sometimes its not even a mistake but something unpredictable. I mean, one time her kitten picked up an item and took it somewhere to play with it. Again, she lost her fucking mind. Then a day later we discover the item in the package in the kitten's play area.
Another time she had something in her hand while working and she went outside to check on something. She set it down just outside the front door and forgot about it. Later? Another freakout.
She seems to be attempting to force a solution when the real solution is to laugh and say, "what the fucking fuck??" And then move on. I am constantly making mistakes. I'm the King Of Mistakes! But I realized a long time ago to just get over the issue and finish the job and then later, at some point things will resolve. I've learned to laugh at my many, many mistakes and move on!
She is making non-issues into dilemmas.
