Hiya, sorry not posted back for a few days been super busy. I'm 38 (owch that age hurts to type) I am medium build I am 5ft 6 new to all this so don't know all the tech terms etc but I'm trying. I've started low weight and feel I've got good guidance and am steadily progressing at weights I am happy with. I can feel my limit.
I have put more space between the grip and this does seem to have help somewhat so thanks for advice there.
I get the same pop and cracking on my shoulders at the front when doing lateral raises
I hope I'm not too old for this and I'm slowly falling apart? I only feel about 25
Shush! Your body was designed to be used! If you fail to use it, it will fail you.
"Its a misconception that age makes you old." ... "Age is a state of mind."
As mentioned above, there's no "one way" to do any particular exercise. Find the way that feels best. Upright rows are inherently a bit awkward and particularly puts an extreme angle/stretch on the wrists that you don't really find in most other exercises. Also try different bar configurations - the EZ bar has been my go-to for any two-handed lifts.
The guy doing the report in the video continues to discuss how there are actual aging processes that occur and it isn't just a case of mind over matter. I'm pushing 49 this year and I am experiencing some issue which is directly due to and somewhat expected as a part of perimenopause. But also keep in mind that I peaked in competitive bodybuilding at age 45 and only did my first competition at age 35. I've been lifting for decades, but there is literally never a time when you are "too old" to resistance train. There is documented amazing increase in muscle mass for sedentary old people who started curling soup cans.
https://www.buckinstitute.org/buck-news/exercise-reverses-aging-human-skeletal-muscle
I can find you a host of other stories & videos about 70+ male & female bodybuilders, who just got started, or who have been doing it for years. Doesn't matter. The point is to start somewhere. You'd be amazed how quickly results do start to come, but you have to start somewhere and just go thru the process of getting to know your body. Don't look at 38 as "old" - trust me, it's not. I did most of my best competition between 40-45.
That said - w/ your note about the cracking and popping in your shoulders as well - are you doing any warm up prior to lifting? Particularly if you're starting from a place of not much physical activity, you more than likely have some general mobility issues. Another point to acknowledge in general about weight lifting - the first places that usually go to shit are shoulders, elbows and wrists. One of the main reasons is simply repetitive motion. This is just part of the modern life, so give consideration to that - your joints arent' just now being used for weight lifting - they have potentially had several years of just simple repetitive motion. I know where my tendonitis came from but I have friends who have issues who have never walked into a gym.
Here's a couple quick articles about "popping and cracking joints":
http://www.hopkinsortho.org/joint_cracking.html
http://www.healthcentral.com/osteoarthritis/c/240381/143712/crackle/
Here's a couple articles / videos on ways to deal w/ popping and cracking joints - even if the article is about, e.g. knees, the suggestions they give apply to any joint - correct form, warm up appropriately, strengthen the muscles around the joint to enable the whole interface to work more like it was designed to work, mobility work, etc.
http://stronglifts.com/10-tips-to-stop-your-knees-from-popping-and-cracking/
http://www.zentofitness.com/the-importance-of-joint-mobility/
http://www.dancespirit.com/2012/09/snap-crackle-pop/
As I've hit "that age" when hormone changes will start causing particularly joint issues and less ability to recover, the root of all my issues is the inherent push/pull imbalances that I was born with. Most of it is just simply the structure of my body and the muscles that are naturally more or less dominant than others. And then throw in a little additional bias due to decades of weight lifting around these various imbalances. And there's no quicky fix to this stuff - its like a car - you need to do appropriate maintenance on it - take it out for a drive to keep things flowing, don't let the crud build up around your wheel wells, change the oil regularly, make sure there are no compromised o-rings, etc. The warm-ups and mobiity work will help you with those things that sound a little off, as if you were starting a race car cold and expecting to do sprint race. You might get away with it a couple times, but if you want to continually improve vs injure something, give appropriate consideration to getting everything warmed up and stretched.