captaincaveman
TID Board Of Directors
- Oct 17, 2010
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The parent can be a former star student and professional athlete that never drank, did drugs, or even cursed. The child may perceive that as "too much to live up to" and look for ways to "escape." This sounds stupid and immature. It is. It is not logical. The first attempt to 'fix' the kid is to apply logic to an illogical kid. Never works. So, the parent may try to punish the kid straight or spoil the kid straight or send the kid off for a year or let the kid get locked up in jail...... at the end of it all is trying to get a kid to survive and be an adult. Underlying mental health issues can not be controlled or treated by a parent because (1) most parents are not equipped, and (2) no parent needs to be an accountability partner to their child. Be their friend or be their parent - but no child can serve two masters. One will influence the other to the detriment of the child. It is complex and sad and the world has put every bad tool in the hands of these children.
I am not agreeing or disagreeing with anyone. I am simply speaking from experience and observation. Thanks to all for this thread.
I am not agreeing or disagreeing with anyone. I am simply speaking from experience and observation. Thanks to all for this thread.