I'm just saying people don't need to have
everything in common.
Mrs Flex hates the music I prefer (metal) and I hate the music she prefers (Classic Country) but we meet in the middle and listen to Classic rock when we're together, which we both like.
Although she has lifted regularly in the past and does lift on occasion now, she doesn't share my life-long passion for it. It's more of a chore and necessary evil for her.
She does, however, support me 100% by cooking for me, doing the extra laundry it creates, buying me lifting related stuff, never biotching when I spend an entire Saturday afternoon at the gym, and she even accompanied me when I went to a PL Meet in NY last year, taking vids of my lifts and cheering me on.
Mutual admiration, repsect, support, etc. is the key here. I'm no Dr Phil, but after two failed marriages I've at least figured out what
doesn't work.
We're coming up on 9 years together and I couldn't be happier. And if she never set foot in a gym again that wouldn't change.
But I would definitely hope not only because I've always enjoyed lifting with her.
That is great...especially the cooking part. My wife is also an excellent cook....I do the dishes, though. I love classic rock. One day, I was playing Led Zeppelin, and I turned the volume down and asked her "sweetie, do you recognize this band?" She said no. I said "I will give you a hint: they are the greatest Rock and Roll band of all time. She blinked those big brown eyes at me and said "The Beetles." I said "just you stay pretty", whereupon I got punched in the shoulder. Shoulder punches are good.
I also had a "starter marriage." Fortunately, I have learned how to stay married. You absolutely cannot control what your wife does. My wife wanted to get a cat. I hate cats (love dogs) so we compromised, and got the cat. All the major decisions are made by women, btw.
The only thing you can do is keep her in love with you. Do not call her to "check up on her" after she went to lunch w/ her boss, reeks of insecurity. My wife once said to me "I am having lunch w/ my boss....he is so good looking. I said "that is nice." She said "he drives a Ferrari." I said "sweet."
The next day she said "don't you want to know how my lunch went?" I said "no, why?" She said "aren't you jealous?" I said "no, did you have sex with him?" She said "of course not." I said "cool." I got punched in the shoulder again.
Another mistake men make with women is they don't understand the difference in communication. When men communicate, we go into problem solving mode. For example, I put a huge assed stereo in my BMW, and it killed my alternator. So, I ask my friend "hey, where can I get a custom alternator for my big assed stereo?"
Women are different. They come home from work, and want to talk about "their day." They already know exactly what they are going to do. The mistake men make, is they immediately start interrupting by going into problem solving mode.
DO NOT DO THIS, WOMEN HATE IT!! Just shut your mouth and listen. Nod your head, pretend that you are interested (my wife likes to talk about firing people...I hate that topic...but I listen). I don't utter a single syllable, and wifey says "it is so good talking to you."
Also, women keep score differently. Guys buy their gal a Lexus and think "that's 100 points, I don't have to work on anything in our relationship for 6 months."
WRONG! Its 1 point. Take out the garbage when she asks, 1 point. Listen to her talk about her day, 1 point. Its all 1 point, and you have to rack them up consistently to keep her interest level high.